Disclaimer: I realize this may be the unpopular opinion. However, my opinions come from a place of women empowerment rather than female degradation. When discussing hook-up culture I wanted to focus on the positives. I am not ignorant to the negative aspects hook-up culture can ensue. Consent is the most important part of sexual encounters. Consent is sexy.
Ah, hook-up culture. The 20-something’s norm that encourages casual sexual encounters with no need for emotional bonding or long-term commitment.
There are countless articles scattered around the internet that argue that this newly adopted “hook-up” culture is detrimental to the traditional romantic love that society is obsessed with. Articles like this and this claim that hook-up culture is getting us 20-somethings nowhere. But think about it, a happily ever after is rare now a days anyway.
Now I know what you’re thinking. What a bitter, single, old woman. But in the words of Mindy Lahiri…
At the ripe age of 23, old is one thing I am not. Bitter? Maybe. Single? Definitely. But looking back, every relationship I’ve ever been in has been nothing more than mediocre. With the exception of my high school boyfriend (Ah, first loves *swoon*), I have never experienced what Hailee Stienfeld would arguably describe as not needing butterflies because her bae gave her the whole damn flu.
(Yes, FLU. Not zoo. Don’t get me started)
Why is society so obsessed with partnership? When did it become unfathomable to be happy being alone? Why, in 2017 (Ew, that’s weird to type), do I need to be in a relationship to live a completely full life? Why am I still being asked, “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” at every family gathering? (Yeah, I’m talking to you, Grandma)
Maybe hook up culture is the answer to all of my problems. It basically allows you to sleep with whom you want when you want. Leaving ample time to focus on other (more important) things than landing the heart of a probably undeserving man.
The judgment of people that decide hook-up culture is for them is straight up glorified slut-shaming.
Being sexually active is not something to be ashamed about. EVER. Traditionalists would like to argue that we are social beings who crave monogamy, partnership and romantic love. But I’m here to preach: DO WHAT YOU WANT and don’t sacrifice sex (literally the most natural action known to human kind) in order to do so.
If you’re happy in a relationship and have found that certain someone who tickles your fancy then kudos to you! I’m happy that you’re happy. I love love. But, leave us singles alone! We are okay and chances are, we’ll find our “Prince Charming” (heavy on the quotations) one day.
But for now, I’m going to text “Chad from bar” and see what he’s up to tonight.
– xoxo K.
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