Lets talk about sex, baby

Disclaimer: I realize this may be the unpopular opinion. However, my opinions come from a place of women empowerment rather than female degradation. When discussing hook-up culture I wanted to focus on the positives. I am not ignorant to the negative aspects hook-up culture can ensue. Consent is the most important part of sexual encounters. Consent is sexy.

Ah, hook-up culture. The 20-something’s norm that encourages casual sexual encounters with no need for emotional bonding or long-term commitment.

There are countless articles scattered around the internet that argue that this newly adopted “hook-up” culture is detrimental to the traditional romantic love that society is obsessed with. Articles like this and this claim that hook-up culture is getting us 20-somethings nowhere. But think about it, a happily ever after is rare now a days anyway.

Now I know what you’re thinking. What a bitter, single, old woman. But in the words of Mindy Lahiri…


At the ripe age of 23, old is one thing I am not. Bitter? Maybe. Single? Definitely. But looking back, every relationship I’ve ever been in has been nothing more than mediocre. With the exception of my high school boyfriend (Ah, first loves *swoon*), I have never experienced what Hailee Stienfeld would arguably describe as not needing butterflies because her bae gave her the whole damn flu.

(Yes, FLU. Not zoo. Don’t get me started)


Why is society so obsessed with partnership? When did it become unfathomable to be happy being alone? Why, in 2017 (Ew, that’s weird to type), do I need to be in a relationship to live a completely full life? Why am I still being asked, “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” at every family gathering? (Yeah, I’m talking to you, Grandma)


Maybe hook up culture is the answer to all of my problems. It basically allows you to sleep with whom you want when you want. Leaving ample time to focus on other (more important) things than landing the heart of a probably undeserving man.

The judgment of people that decide hook-up culture is for them is straight up glorified slut-shaming.


Being sexually active is not something to be ashamed about. EVER. Traditionalists would like to argue that we are social beings who crave monogamy, partnership and romantic love. But I’m here to preach: DO WHAT YOU WANT and don’t sacrifice sex (literally the most natural action known to human kind) in order to do so.

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If you’re happy in a relationship and have found that certain someone who tickles your fancy then kudos to you! I’m happy that you’re happy. I love love. But, leave us singles alone! We are okay and chances are, we’ll find our “Prince Charming” (heavy on the quotations) one day.

But for now, I’m going to text “Chad from bar” and see what he’s up to tonight.


– xoxo K.

Featured image via weheartit


  1. A lot of people don’t like hookup culture because it feels sexist and degrading to all parties involved. Most of the girls I know who are avidly supportive of hookup culture regularly complain about their depression from not pursuing meaningful life goals. I don’t think its a coincidence. Theres nothing wrong with having the occasional hook up but pursuing it as an end in itself seems toxic and destructive. Meaningful relationships improve every aspect of life and people who regularly hook up are cheating themselves out of crucial development. Ignore my username.


    1. Thanks for your comment! You make some great points. I more so want to promote singledom as being completely okay. A lot of people feel that they’re judged for not being in a relationship which is completely insane. Additionally, if someone chooses the single life they shouldn’t be subjected to a life without sex. There is more to life then monogamous relationships. A career, friends and family just to name a few. A meaningful relationship doesn’t have to be strictly romantic love either. A lot of people find complete happiness in other relationships in their life.
      Thanks for commenting and being respectful! I really do appreciate the discussion.


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