Dating

Dear jerk: an open letter to the f*ckboy disguised as a nice guy

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Dear Jerk,

“YOU’RE A REALLY GOOD GIRL, BUT I THINK I SEE YOU AS MORE OF A FRIEND”

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that line, and guess what someone said it again. Sadly, that someone was you.

I thought I could trust you. I thought you were different from the others. Our first date could have been out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. We talked for hours, you made me laugh so hard I cried and it even ended with a kiss in the middle of an empty street (seriously I am not making this sh*it up).

You were reassuring to the point where I thought this was going somewhere good. You showed tons of interest in me which lead me to (foolishly) believe you actually wanted to give this a shot.

I let my guard down for the first time in a long time – and (surprise, surprise) it immediately blew up in my face because you only wanted “friendship”.

Maybe you saw everything we had as friendship. But I’m pretty certain “friends” don’t go on dates, kiss, take each other’s clothes off or promise to introduce you their families (please, correct me if I’m wrong).

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So……. you said I’m “a good girl”. Am I too good of a girl is that why you don’t want me? Is it because I made you a priority or cared too much?

Did you not like my playful and sarcastic sense of humour? Or were my dreams and aspirations too intimidating for you to handle because you don’t have the same vision of success in mind?

I know we have all done it before: fallen into the web that was woven by a first-class player. But you were different (or so I thought), you were a nice guy.. Except you weren’t, you were just a f*ckboy disguised as a nice guy (which is so much worse).

But, nevertheless I’d like to thank you for teaching me the following lessons:

  1. Run away from anyone who makes you feel like being yourself isn’t enough.
  1. Don’t let someone else’s insecurities become your own.
  1. People aren’t always who they seem to be (sometimes they deserve Oscars for how well they can pretend to be people they’re not).

Let’s be real with each other, you know you’re going to (if you haven’t already) regret what you did. So in the words of the wisest and most influential female voice of our generation, Beyoncé Knowles:

 

“MIDDLE FINGERS UP.

PUT THEM HANDS HIGH.

WAVE IT IN HIS FACE.

TELL ‘EM BOY BYE.

BOY BYE.”

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