A man coming home, making dinner and lighting a candle for his partner because he just wants to make her happy. That’s what every woman wants right? It has to be. That’s what I thought all of my childhood and into my adolescence. Wrong! You’re absolutely wrong. The answer is: that’s not what she wants because she doesn’t even know what she wants.
The thing about relationships these days is that so few of us know what we actually want from life and who we want to be ‘when we grow up’. We live day by day, constantly wanting to explore new things, travel the world and meet new people. There isn’t anything wrong with this. Honestly, it’s a pretty damn good formula for happiness.
But, we shouldn’t pretend that long-term relationships and marriage are going to work cohesively with all of that.Truth is, most of the time it won’t.
Today there are very few twenty somethings looking to find a partner, start a family and work the same 9 to 5 job the rest of their life. That’s okay. But at the same time, if these are the things you want that’s also okay. What I am trying to say is: be realistic about what you want from life and how a relationship factors into your future plan.
If what you want from life most is to find the ‘one’, and live happily every after then good for you! All the best. But do NOT pursue that if after five years with someone you’re going to decide you actually don’t know what you want.
Take the road less travelled. Explore the world. Find your true passions.
Take the time to think about what you honestly want, not five months from now – but five years from now. And for fu*ks sake don’t drag someone with you that has no business being there. Be honest with yourself and those around you – you will be a better person for it.
Live. Love. Dream. Grow. But know that it’s ok to do that alone.